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When Everything Feels Like Too Much: How to Cope with Overwhelm in Motherhood & Beyond
Motherhood can feel overwhelming- especially when the news is heavy and your baby needs you nonstop. Learn simple grounding tools and long-term strategies to feel calmer and more grounded.
Why Old Wounds Resurface in Motherhood
Motherhood has a way of shining light on parts of our past we thought were long behind us. Many new moms are surprised when old wounds- like childhood pain, unresolved trauma, or self-critical thoughts, suddenly resurface after having a baby. This can feel confusing, overwhelming, and even shameful. But you’re not alone, and you’re not broken. In this post, we explore why motherhood often brings up old hurts, how it impacts your daily life, and the healing tools that can help you feel more grounded, connected, and confident.
Revenge Bedtime Procrastination: Why Moms Do It & What Helps
Feeling exhausted but still staying up late to scroll or binge shows? You’re not alone. Many moms fall into “revenge bedtime procrastination” as a way to reclaim time for themselves but it often backfires, leaving you even more drained. In this post, we explore why moms do it, why it doesn’t actually help, and gentle alternatives that can give you the rest, peace, and “me time” you truly deserve.
The Invisible Weight of Motherhood in Postpartum: Understanding and Sharing the Mental Load
Motherhood often comes with an invisible backpack of responsibility- remembering feeding schedules, planning pediatrician visits, managing household tasks, all while running on very little sleep. This unseen burden is called the mental load, and for many new moms, it becomes heavier than ever in the postpartum period. In this post, we’ll explore what the mental load is, why it intensifies after baby arrives, how it impacts your mental health and relationships, and practical tools to begin sharing it more equally. Plus, discover a new resource designed to help couples rebalance the load together.
3 Tools for Moms to Regulate Nervous System
If you feel constantly on edge in motherhood- snapping, spiraling, or emotionally shutting down- you’re not alone. This blog post shares three simple, trauma-informed nervous system tools to help you feel calmer and more in control. Learn how to soothe overwhelm, ease anxiety, and reconnect with a sense of safety in your body.
Top 5 Reasons to Start Therapy While Pregnant
Pregnancy can bring joy but also anxiety, identity shifts, and unexpected emotional triggers. Therapy during pregnancy gives you a safe, supportive space to process what’s coming, heal what’s surfacing, and prepare for postpartum with more clarity and confidence. In this post, we explore five powerful reasons to consider starting therapy while pregnant, and how it can support your emotional well-being before baby arrives.
You Don’t Need PTSD to Benefit: 5 Hidden Struggles EMDR Therapy Can Address
EMDR therapy is known for treating PTSD, but that’s only part of the story. For many moms, trauma shows up in quieter, everyday ways: anxiety that won’t let up, guilt that runs deep, or emotional triggers that seem to come out of nowhere. In this post, we’re exploring five hidden struggles EMDR can help you heal- so you can feel more grounded, empowered, and at peace in motherhood.
Postpartum Anxiety vs. “Normal” New Mom Worry: How to Tell the Difference
Are you a new mom constantly questioning if your worries are normal or something more? This blog post breaks down the difference between typical postpartum concerns and postpartum anxiety, helping you understand the signs, why it happens, and how therapy can help. Learn what to watch for, how to get support, and why you’re not failing- you’re just human. If the weight of motherhood feels like too much, you’re not alone, and there’s a path to relief.
You Don’t Have to Hold It All Together: What Therapy for Moms Really Looks Like
You don’t have to keep holding it all together. If motherhood feels heavier than you imagined and you’re overwhelmed, anxious, or grieving parts of your experience you didn’t expect- this post is for you. Learn what therapy for moms really looks like and how it can help you feel more supported, grounded, and like yourself again. Therapy isn’t about fixing you. It’s about supporting the real you under all the pressure.
Struggling in Postpartum? Understanding Clean Pain vs. Dirty Pain Can Help
Postpartum can feel like an emotional rollercoaster and you’re not alone in wondering why it’s so hard. In this post, we explore the powerful concept of clean vs. dirty pain to help you understand your struggles with more clarity and compassion. Learn how to tell the difference, why it matters, and what you can do to feel more supported and less stuck.
When “Good Enough” Feels Like Failure: Understanding Perfectionism in Motherhood
Perfectionism doesn’t always look like chasing a perfect house- it often shows up as quiet self-pressure, guilt, and never feeling like you’re doing enough. In this post, I unpack where those high expectations come from, how they impact your well-being, and how therapy can help you find more self-compassion in motherhood.
Who Am I Now? Navigating Identity Shifts in Motherhood
“Who am I now?”
If you’ve found yourself asking this question since becoming a mom, you’re not alone. Many mothers feel a deep identity shift after birth- like parts of them have gone missing or no longer fit. This blog explores the emotional and psychological transformation of matrescence (yes, it’s a real thing!), why it feels so disorienting, and how you can begin reconnecting with yourself in this new season of life. Because you haven’t lost yourself- you’re becoming someone new.
Scary Thoughts After Baby? What No One Tells You About Postpartum Intrusive Thoughts
If you’re having scary, unwanted thoughts about your baby, you’re not alone and you’re not a bad mom. These intrusive thoughts are more common than you think and may be a sign of postpartum OCD, a misunderstood but treatable condition. This blog helps you understand what’s happening in your mind and how to find support that actually helps.
Why You Might Still Be Grieving Your Birth Experience (Even with a Healthy Baby)
You’ve been told, “All that matters is a healthy baby.” But what about how you feel after birth? If you’re carrying sadness, anger, or grief about your birth experience, you’re not alone and you’re not ungrateful. Many moms silently struggle with birth trauma, even when everything “looks fine” from the outside. In this blog, we explore why it’s normal to grieve your birth, how trauma can show up postpartum, and how therapy, including EMDR, can help you process what happened, ease emotional triggers, and feel proud of your story. Your experience matters. Healing is possible.
EMDR for Moms: Heal from Your Childhood Trauma
Motherhood can stir up emotions you didn’t expect- anxiety, overwhelm, guilt, and even grief. For many moms, these feelings are rooted in unresolved childhood trauma. In this blog post, we explore how EMDR therapy can help you heal from the emotional wounds of your past so you can feel more grounded, connected, and confident in your role as a mother. If you’re carrying the weight of perfectionism, people-pleasing, or emotional reactivity, this gentle and empowering guide is for you.
Sleep Deprivation in Postpartum: How to Cope When You’re Beyond Exhausted
Postpartum sleep deprivation isn’t just “part of the job”- it can shake your sense of self, hijack your emotions, and make even the smallest tasks feel impossible. If you’re deep in the fog of exhaustion, this blog post is for you. I’m breaking down why sleep feels so out of reach in early motherhood and sharing therapist-backed strategies to help you rest, regulate, and feel more like you again. Because you deserve support- not just survival.
Anxiety vs. OCD in Motherhood: What’s the Difference and Why It Matters
Anxiety and OCD are both common in early motherhood but they can feel confusing and easy to mix up. This blog explores the key differences between anxiety vs. OCD, including how they show up in postpartum moms, what intrusive thoughts really mean, and why the right diagnosis matters. You’ll also learn about lesser-known forms like Relationship OCD and Pure “O” OCD, how trauma and perfectionism play a role, and what treatments like CBT, EMDR, and ERP can offer. If you’ve ever wondered, “Is this normal, or is something wrong with me?”- this post is for you.
Treating Postpartum Depression Naturally: Gentle, Holistic Support for New Moms
You love your baby, but lately, you don’t feel like yourself. If you’re tearful, anxious, disconnected, or just getting through the day on autopilot, you’re not alone. Postpartum depression is real, and it’s more common than most people realize. The good news? You don’t have to suffer in silence and you don’t have to go straight to medication if that doesn’t feel right for you. In this post, I’ll explore how to treat postpartum depression naturally using gentle, research-backed tools that support both your emotional well-being and your nervous system.
5 Common Myths About Postpartum Mental Health (That Are Keeping Moms Stuck)
Think postpartum mental health struggles are just the baby blues or that they’ll go away on their own? You’re not alone, and you’ve likely been misled. In this validating post, we unpack 5 common myths that keep new moms stuck in shame, silence, and self-blame. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or unlike yourself in motherhood, this is for you.
The Mental Load Overload: Understanding How You Got Here
You didn’t start your relationship this way but somewhere along the line, you became the default parent, the household manager, the knower of all the things. Now you’re drowning in the mental load, and wondering how it got so heavy. This blog unpacks how seemingly “fair” partnerships shift over time, especially in motherhood, and why so many moms feel overwhelmed and unseen. If you’re tired of carrying it all, this post is for you- plus, learn how our new Mental Load Coaching for Couples can help you find balance and real support again.